Category Archives for abuse
Say bye to the guilt…
I hear it all the time. ‘I can’t get over the guilt.’ ‘I can’t break free of the self-criticism.’ ‘I feel trapped in my own shame.’ People tell me they wish they could Iive free of those feelings. So they could get on with their lives without being pulled back into the difficulty of living with guilt which is always […]
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The definitive guide to parental narcissistic abuse (and recovery)
You may already be thinking, why does your relationship with your parents feel so out? Life might feel overwhelming, confusing and lonely as a consequence. Sometimes, it’s hard to know what you feel or how to shake off the anxiety and second guessing. If you’ve landed here, you might already have an inkling that one […]
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How to deal with a difficult sister or brother [video]
You might fantasize about having the ideal sibling relationship. But the reality? Your relationship with a brother or sister isn’t what you want it to be. You were hoping for an ally, someone who gets what being in your family feels like. Instead you’ve got someone who picks a fight, sides with mum or dad. Or just […]
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4 steps to stop second guessing yourself [video]
Why is it so hard to stick with a decision? How is it that, even when you feel solid, you come back over your choices? Doubt yourself. Question your smartness. Or integrity. Or value in making a choice. In this short video I look at the issue of second guessing yourself and why it’s such a big […]
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The simple way to stop your unhealthy guilt
Your stomach does a flip. Your face gets hot. Your body tightens. Your breath gets more shallow. You start to sweat a bit. The feeling of guilt washes over you. But why? When you stop to think a moment, what did you do? You’re sat at lunch with your family. You mum looks over at you. Says nothing. […]
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Raised by a narcissist? 30 startling signs
With all the talk about narcissism and narcissistic abuse, you may be wondering, does this affect me? If your parent was on the more extreme end of the spectrum, there may be little doubt in your mind, that childhood was uncomfortable, complicated, challenging. You may even describe it as abusive. But for many, their experiences were more […]
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Gaslighting: 7 powerful ways to overcome it
This was it. The moment when I thought I had finally lost it. Gone mad. It was such a simple email, in reply to my own stating straightforward needs. But it got right under the skin. In its simple words, it denied my experience, ignored my truth. It wasn’t that the words were hurtful. Maybe someone […]
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10 reasons you keep attracting narcissists and emotional abusers
It starts off with optimism: This time it will be different. You won’t get caught out again. A few months pass, and there are some warning signs. The enormous charm that attracted you or the intense attention starts to abate. You get a cold feeling in your stomach which you try to tune out. A few put downs, […]
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Self-sabotage: why you just can’t help it (and how to break the cycle)
You’ve been meaning to get earlier nights, but 3 box sets later and it’s 2am again. That healthier eating? Ended with the giant box of Celebrations. Or more extreme. That job you had worked so hard to get? You pull out the day before starting, thinking it’s not really you. That tooth niggle. Not worth looking at. Until […]
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The definitive guide to parental narcissistic abuse (and recovery)
You may already be thinking, why does your relationship with your parents feel so out? Life might feel overwhelming, confusing and lonely as a consequence. Sometimes, it’s hard to know what you feel or how to shake off the anxiety and second guessing. If you’ve landed here, you might already have an inkling that one of your parents […]
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